Serious relationship with a man: 5 main rules

Many girls complain that they can't have a serious relationship with a man. In order for such a relationship to take place, you must first decide on it internally. It often happens that a girl thinks that she wants a serious relationship, but in fact she doesn't. This is called "social desire" - the one that meets the standard requirements of society, but not your own.

How to find a man for a serious relationship?

Serious relationships fail for girls for at least two reasons. The first reason is that there is no suitable man, and the second is that there is a man, but he does not agree to a serious relationship. Let's look at the first problem first. If you cannot find a suitable man for yourself, you need to first model his image in your thoughts. And imagine well who exactly you want to see next to you.

Emphasize the qualities you want to see in your man. These qualities should be divided into two areas: appearance and character. Think. What kind of man do you like more in terms of appearance. Write these qualities down on pieces of paper. Now think about what kind of character you want to see in your chosen one. Write them down on a piece of paper. Now cross out those qualities that are mutually exclusive. For example, “my man earns a lot” and “my man is always at home, next to me.” Decide what you want more: material wealth or a caring husband who sits at home?

Don't forget to mention every aspect of the relationship: intellectual compatibility, career, sex, attitude towards you, desire or unwillingness to have children, general health, love or dislike of sports.

When a man appears who matches your dream image as closely as possible, you can compare the original with your dream and determine whether he suits you or not. And then a completely different job begins: you will build a serious relationship with the man of your dreams. What mistakes can happen along the way? In addition, you need to take these mistakes into account in the case discussed above: you already have a man, but a serious relationship with him does not work out.

How to believe in a serious relationship?

According to psychologists, a person pushes others towards the circumstances he wants to see. Roughly speaking, if you do not have a serious relationship with a man, it means that you either do not believe in it or do not want it. Then this relationship develops exactly like this: he is at a great distance, he is married or he is free, but does not take you seriously.

Rule of Faith

To establish a serious relationship with a man, you must first believe in it. Very often, due to psychological trauma, a woman is afraid to start a new relationship to avoid pain. And then she subconsciously pushes away those men who can be reliable partners. Or she builds a relationship with a man on the principle of "This is temporary", keeping him at a distance and forcing him to treat her frivolously. So, the first principle: believe that you will have a new true love. To help yourself with this, write down all your thoughts, actions and decisions only in a positive aspect. Gradually, you will change your way of thinking as much as you want positive and serious changes in your personal life.

The rule of getting rid of unnecessary things

Let's say you have a few admirers left (who doesn't?), and let's say you still have affection for one of these admirers, and you keep waiting for him to change, for him to start giving you gifts, inviting you to expensive restaurants, and then you'll start living together. But such dreams take away your time, energy, and most importantly, free space for the man who could really make you happy. After all, love settles only in an unoccupied heart.

Therefore, learn once and for all: if a man does not meet your requirements, immediately transfer him to the category of a friend and take care of your personal life for real. If you do not have a serious man yet, take care of yourself - you can improve yourself endlessly. And most importantly - this is very rewarding and interesting work. A man with the same qualities will definitely pay attention to a girl like you - cheerful, self-sufficient, happy with life and well-groomed.

The rule of freedom of action

This rule means that you will not control your man 24 hours a day. No one can stand that – unless he is a masochist and you are playing an interesting game. But such a game will not last long if each of you does not have the freedom of your own choice and your own actions. This does not mean that you should do whatever you want, but it does mean that you should never impose any actions on each other or bully your man just because he is “yours”.

The Rule of Emotional Fidelity

If you are a self-sufficient girl, you will not rush from one man to another in search of confirmation of your attractiveness and necessity. Emotional betrayal is bad not for the man, but first of all for you. You need to clearly and decisively establish your own place in the life of this or that man, and most importantly - understand your role and your behavior in your relationship.

If you waste your energy on men you don't need, yours won't get it. So you won't have a serious relationship because you'll be rushing from one shore to the other. Make up your mind and calmly and confidently move towards your goal.

The rule of mistakes

Both you and your man have the right to make mistakes. This means that you have the right to forgive. And this is normal. Forgive your man for his mistakes, and in turn, let him forgive you. This is the basis for a long-term serious relationship with a man. We wish you to have exactly this kind of relationship.

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