What to do if your partner refuses to put on a condom
Last reviewed: 23.04.2024
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What only men do not come up with, so as not to wear a condom, but it is with his help that you can protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections, including HIV, and avoid unwanted pregnancies. Safe sex, a healthy lifestyle are not just fictions, so here are some proven strategies by which you can get a man to use a condom.
Plan ahead
At the moment of intimacy, passion will swallow you both and all thoughts of security will simply evaporate, so discuss with your partner beforehand your unwillingness to put your own health at risk. If necessary, educate him in general about the possible consequences of unprotected sex and the need for contraception.
Experiment
Now you can find condoms of any size and color, aromatized and for allergy sufferers, ribbed and thematic, so suggest that the partner try everything that his heart desires. If he had experience of using condoms that left unpleasant feelings, then experiment and you will find something that will suit him.
[Act alone
If you have tried all the methods of persuasion, and the result has remained the same and the partner categorically does not want to wear a condom, take everything in hand - take advantage of female condoms. This type of contraception is a tube made of polyurethane, which is inserted into the vagina. However, remember that the simultaneous use of male and female condoms is prohibited, because they may be damaged or slipping.
Give the right attitude
Often a man perceives a request to put a condom on as a mistrust on the part of a loved one and this can lead to a quarrel. Convince him that such a request is an indicator of not lack of love and trust, but rather a concern and a sincere desire to protect both of you.
Be well prepared
Before speaking with a partner, try to scroll in your head your future conversation and its possible answers. If you do not know how to respond to the arguments of his refusals, then work out the information that will help to parry all his "I do not want" and "will not."
And remember, please use a condom - not just a fad, but a demonstration of respect for yourself and your partner.