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How to gain self-confidence: 8 useful tips
Last reviewed: 01.07.2025
People react differently to stressful situations, of which there are many in our lives. In order to be less influenced by the surprises that life often throws at us, experts from the American Psychological Association have prepared advice on how to learn to endure all adversity with your head held high and not hang your head, even if nothing pleases you.
Communication
Good friends and loved ones will never let you drown in your own tears, they will always support and help. Don't be a lone wolf, because it is harder to bear all the sorrows alone, and when you are surrounded by loved ones, everything is not as scary as it seems.
There are no hopeless situations
You can't change the fact that unpleasant moments periodically arise in life, but you can always change your attitude towards it. Never dwell on what has already happened, look ahead and don't forget that there are more white stripes than black ones.
Change is a part of our life
Some of the goals you set may never come true, but there's no point in getting upset about it. You need to accept all the circumstances and try to change what you can.
Move towards the goal
It's good to want to achieve something, but set yourself goals that are within your reach. "By magic" everything only happens in fairy tales, so go towards the implementation of your plans gradually. Instead of focusing on lofty goals, do what you can do today to achieve the desired result.
Decisive steps
Problems never solve themselves and burying your head in the sand like an ostrich is not the best solution. Everything that happens on our path, good or bad, is our life.
Self-confidence
Self-confidence helps to trust your feelings and instincts. Faith in yourself, in your abilities helps a person become stronger physically and morally.
Optimism
Nothing kills self-confidence like a pessimistic attitude. It is easier for optimists to go through life, because setting yourself up for the good means already doing half the job. Never give up, everything is possible, the main thing is to want and act.
Do what you like
Take care of yourself and your health. In addition to nutrition and exercise, an important component of health, both mental and physical, is doing what you love.
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