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Adaptation of the child in kindergarten
Last reviewed: 19.10.2021
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Parents pay little attention to the problem of adaptation to kindergarten, alas, this is true. Why does the child have frequent colds, respiratory diseases, a bad mood and loud, long crying, hysterics before going to the kindergarten?
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I do not want to go to kindergarten!
Children are much worse than kindergartens worse than school. Because this is their first contact with extraneous children for a long time, parting with their parents and the first foreign food.
If you give children to a kindergarten from their toddlers, they still get used to this institution, but they can start calling their moms teachers. If the comfortable habit of giving children to a nursery gets more frequent - it can have a bad effect on the sense of closeness to the family in children and the sense of the presence of parents. The consequences make themselves felt even in the adult life of growing up children.
If you can afford to stay with a baby at least until his 3-to-4-year-old age, do not miss this opportunity. Even at the birth of the second child, you should not give your eldest in the garden. He can perform very useful functions: remove toys, blankets, entertain the younger child, play with a rattle with a younger brother or sister. Naturally, we should not lose sight of the fact that children should be able to become attached to each other, and if they are divided into kindergartens and different grandmothers, there may be an emotional gap.
If you still have to go to the kindergarten, you need to prepare for it together.
Getting ready for kindergarten
The first thing to do is not to worry. If before going to kindergarten you will worry too much - the child will also begin to worry and get used to being nervous before going to the garden. Do not tell the child that it can complicate life in the garden, and even more, do not tell him that there will be better than possible. Try the child to explain everything correctly, realistically, as an ordinary need with its pluses.
Before going to the garden, try to make sure that the child is used to eating everything at once, without frequent and easy snacks. Feed him at the same time of the day, 3-4 times a day, depending on the appetite of the baby. If you feed your child not too high-calorie foods, then his appetite improves over time .
Talk to the baby with a confident, strict tone of voice. If, with such an urgent communication with the child, refuses to eat at all, or starts eating under great pressure, think about it seriously. In this case, it is necessary to talk with the educator in the kindergarten so that this person does not force your child to eat, but patiently waits.
Do not drive a child while eating. Very often, kids do not want to go to kindergartens because they are forced to eat, moreover, what they do not really like, at home is tastier. Feed your child about the same way as in kindergarten, so that he is used to the menu. If the child panically refuses to go to the kindergarten, it may be time to think about whether he needs it at all.
Hardening before kindergarten
Temper your baby, especially if you are going to go to kindergarten. In kindergarten children with poor adaptation and poor immunity are often found, so your child should be strong in health. In the warm season, namely in spring and summer, go barefoot with the baby, not paying attention to weather conditions.
Do not measure your baby too often the temperature and do not tell him that your child can get sick. The kid should be confident in his invulnerability, he needs to feel protected. Try to teach your child to cold: tea, milk, juices, water, kefir, etc. Children are very useful in small quantities to eat ice cream. Because of the difference in temperature, the child will develop immunity over time. In addition, children are very fond of ice cream, so forbidden, so tasty. It turns out that it is also very useful.
Parting with Mom
Many children feel very painful about parting with their parents, even for a short period of time, they do not even accept persuasion to stay with people close to them, because they are having a hard time parting with their mother and father.
It can manifest in different ways: there is a reluctance to eat or a bad appetite, a bad dream or lack of sleep, the mood disappears, children constantly ask where mom, dad, ask how long. The reason for this behavior of children is laid in them by parents.
If the mother does not perceive how the child can behave, she is very worried, misjudges her position in the family. If children behave too anxiously at parting with their parents, you can turn to a psychologist, but you can also try to solve the problem yourself.
How to deal with the child correctly?
Try to leave the child, for example, in the store, when he is busy with something: an exciting game with friends, drawing. You can go away at a time when the child constructs a surprise for his parents. If you are going to often leave the house and leave the child alone - accustom him to that he himself considered the time before he had to go to bed and went to bed, the same concerns the time of eating.
Put additional responsibilities on him. For example, to help you search for something or wash dishes, clean up after yourself, etc., then the child will feel responsible and the baby will not be lonely when he is in the house himself.
Tell him that thanks to his invaluable help you are much easier to cope on the house and he is a good fellow, which makes it easier for mom or dad life.
You can come up with rituals, for example, when you go to work, so that your kid waved your hand at the farewell from the window of the apartment, escorted to the door or elevator. If you bring tasty or pleasant surprises to your child, when he comes home from work, he will also try to make you feel good, and he will look forward to you with enthusiasm to tell you about what happened to him during the day.
Education is very important
What you give your children at an early age will affect their entire adult life, some things will change only slightly. Make every effort to ensure that your child is independent, responsible and appreciates you. Praise him for success and tell him about interesting things with enthusiasm, awakening his interest. Living with such a child will be a pleasure. And the problems of adaptation to the kindergarten will remain in the past.