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10 ways to strengthen your relationship with your child after divorce
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Last reviewed: 08.07.2025
If you have recently divorced and your child is upset with you, misses you very much and then the parent who will now live separately, your communication with your child may become tense. If there is still alienation between you, there are several effective ways to fix it. You can strengthen your relationship with your child like this.
Method No. 1.
Invite your child to tell you what he/she thinks about your relationship. This will help the child let off steam if he/she has accumulated grievances. This will show what your child really feels towards you, there will be no misunderstandings between you. Also, the child will get rid of negative thoughts and feelings.
Method No. 2.
Create new or maintain existing family rituals. For example, family dinners. These can also be family slogans, emblems, common games, etc., so that your child feels like an integral part of the family. For example, you regularly kiss your child before school. And then every time the child sees someone else kiss, your son or daughter will think of you.
Method No. 3.
Take pictures with your child and post them around the house so your child can see how much you love him and how much fun you have with him.
Method No. 4.
Make friends with your child's friends and their family members. Make your home a cozy place for your child's loved ones. This is very important for your child to feel more secure.
Method No. 5.
If your child is rude to you or does not want to talk to you, tell him this phrase:
"I love you too much to allow you to speak to me so rudely. Let's be friends."
Method No. 6.
Help your child maintain close and loving relationships with your family – his grandparents – so that the child feels surrounded by love and care.
Method No. 7.
Talk to your child about their goals, interests, plans, and dreams. Believe in your child and support their life plans. Encourage your child to try new activities and take on new challenges. For example, let them learn the art of roller skating or give them a good camera to make things interesting and fun for the child.
Method No. 8.
Treat your child with respect, even in the most critical situations, maintaining a calm tone and confident actions. Your child will definitely appreciate it.
Method No. 9.
Appreciate your child and let him know that you see all the good things he does. Your child will feel understood and recognized – almost like a celebrity.
Method No. 10.
Show your love and affection for your child in ways that are most meaningful to them. Some children need a lot of time and attention, others feel loved when you cook them something delicious or play games with them. Get to know your child and show them your love in ways that are most meaningful to them.
If parents are sensitive to their child, he will definitely feel and understand it. And then the trauma received after the parents' divorce will be easier to endure.